What a Nice Gift! | Series 5.4 - Enjoy More 30s: Family Finance

Episode 4

What a Nice Gift! | Series 5.4

Published on: 4th October, 2021

All things gifting: how much, too much, and throwing a lesson in there too!

  • You can do so much with a gift, and with a little bit of thought. And those are the feelings that we want to be giving our children obviously. (03:56)
  • Currently in 2021 you're allowed to gift up to $15,000 per person to any other person. (04:08)
  • Think about what gifting goals you may have for your kids, but more importantly, what lessons you can help in teaching them through that gifting. (09:59)

Quote for the episode. "Get them interested in making positive money steps when they're young and that mindset will carry them exponentially farther in all likelihood than just those kind of few dollars that you spent in the process." (10:17)

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Transcript
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Welcome to the EnjoyMore30s Family Finance

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podcast. The only podcast dedicated to making life more

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enjoyable for young families by hitting on the financial topics

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that tend to weigh on us, stress us out, and distract our focus

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from simply enjoying life.

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Welcome once again to the EnjoyMore30s Family

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Finance podcast. Here we're aiming to help you take those

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steps forward, gain that confidence, and therefore remove

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that financial anxiety so you can focus solely on making your

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life more enjoyable, because that's really why we're all here

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just to make life more enjoyable. And this series we've

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focused specifically on the kids. So this series Your Kids

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Money Mindset series, we're focusing on you, your kids, and

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try to help when it comes to them. And you know, we all love

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giving to our kids. So today we're going to talk about giving

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to our kids, and how you can do that best.

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So as always, if you like what you're hearing, please make sure

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to subscribe or follow us on Apple podcast, or really

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wherever you listen. Clicking that star, leaving the review,

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it really really helps us reach the literally millions of other

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young families out there that are just like you. Last week, we

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discussed what is probably going to be the most important episode

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of this entire series, which touched on how you are

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essentially fully responsible for what future money mindset

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your children may have, whether that's good, bad or otherwise.

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So school is really not going to teach them anything at all, at

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least from what I have seen. Either they're gonna form their

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own money based opinions on what friends tell them, on what music

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videos they like, or you can proactively influence that. But

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either way, some money mindset is going to be formed. So if you

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haven't checked out that episode yet, definitely do that soon.

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Today's episode, though, is titled, What a Nice Gift, where

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we're going to cover all things when it comes to gifting from

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how much you can gift, to what happens if you go over that

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limit, to interesting ways to consider making the most of that

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gifting of money that you want to do for your kids. So really,

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the goal for today's episode, if you walk away with this is I

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want you to think about what you may want to do in the form of

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gifts to make a lasting positive impression that children will

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benefit from, of course, but also remember and help in

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positively shaping their money mindset for the rest of their

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lives. Now, I'm guessing that you are the same as me, where

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you still remember the best gifts that you ever gave anybody

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in your life, that look that you see on somebody else's face,

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that you know the the emotion, it just sticks with you when you

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get the gift that's just right, you almost get more than they do

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just from the reaction. It feels just so fantastic that you were

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able to give them something that could mean that much to them. As

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an example, one time for Bob's wife, Savia, Bob and Savia are

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the founders of the firm, who, Savia's father was an inventor

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by trade. And he has long since passed. But he had all of these

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original blueprints. So I got a copy of one and blew it up and

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made it a framed copy of it that you could hang up in her office.

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And just the look that she had, the feeling that she had, you

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know, this was her father, this is what her father dedicated

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just 10s of years to what they still work on today was just so

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so awesome.

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Another time in a completely different direction. When my

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sister passed away the local church without us knowing or

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asking, they reached out to the funeral home, and they made

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prayer blankets for all of my family members in memory of my

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of my sister. So you know, it's not something I was expecting at

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all. But if if my house was on fire, that would be one of the

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things I would want to grab now. So the point of all this is you

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can do so much with a gift, and with a little bit of thought.

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And those are the feelings that we want to be giving our

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children obviously.

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So you know, the first question is, you know, how much can you

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actually gift? Currently in 2021 you're allowed to gift up to

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$15,000 per person to any other person. So I can gift $15,000 to

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each of my children. My wife could also gift $15,000 to each

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of our children. So we could cumulatively gift $30,000 if

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that's what we were wanting to. I could give $15,000 to you if I

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really wanted to. Now if you're listening to this podcast,

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you're likely younger with younger kids. And I'd imagine

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you're originally saying by this "Joe, you know, I'm not handing

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over $15,000 to my kids right now. Maybe way, way, way down

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the line depending on how things go. How much you helped me, Joe,

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but not today." And you know that that's totally fair. I'm

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not handing over any money to my kids in the form of a $15,000

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check either. How I do plan on helping them though with

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college, I would love to help them get on the right path when

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it comes to saving to their futures. So, you know, for

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college if you do decide to use a 529 plan to any degree, and if

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you remember, this is the school specific savings vehicle, which

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was covered in much, much more detail in 5.2 of the series, you

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can lump sum up to five years worth of the gifting limit all

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in one year. So for me, personally, I could give my kid

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$75,000 into a 529 plan all in one shot. Now, if you're going

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to use funds to pay for college anyway, you know, why not have

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them grow tax free. The strategy that I that I like even better

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though, to discuss here, when it comes to gifting, because a 529

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plan what we're giving to them for college, that we're doing

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that obviously to try to help them but there's not much

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learning that's built into that.

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If you do have kids that are old enough, though, to have their

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first job, here's where you have the opportunity to tie learning

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in with gifting. So you can match or think about matching

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their earnings or their savings that they're making at work into

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another account, a Roth IRA or another investment.

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Simultaneously now, you're teaching them many different

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things. So let's say every $100 you make, I'll put in $50 into

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an account for you. Or every $100 that you save of what you

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make, I'll put in $50 into an account for you $100, and

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they'll match at 100%, whatever it might be. Now you're teaching

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them about working hard, one, about saving for the future,

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two, compound interest, three, when you explain what I'm about

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to go through and even getting them used to the idea of

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matching. Matching is what they're going to encounter if

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they have a work plan, a 401k or anything like that. Get them

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used to the idea, you know, "see Johnny, you just made 100% on

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your contribution. You put in $100 into this account, I put in

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another $100. You just made 100%. And now that $2,500 let's

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say that now we've built up in this aggressive Roth mutual

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fund, maybe worth let's say, $100,000, by the time you look

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to retire." So you know, these are lessons that many people

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don't learn until much later, or sometimes not at all. So it's

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super, super important, super impactful, where you can now

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start using these gifts, not to just help them accomplish

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something but to help teach them something, help them learn

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something that could last with them for the rest of their

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lives.

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And don't forget how this may come into play for your parents

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as well. As we've talked about before, I understand if you and

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your parents don't exactly talk about money, because many don't.

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As we talked about at length in series three, Your Parents Money

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Mindset, it's this taboo subject. But if they are in a

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good position right now financially, maybe they have

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extra fixed income, or your advisor has shown them that they

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are well over what they need with projections to not run out

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of money. Then these are things that they can participate in as

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well if they want to. Grandparents like helping their

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grandchildren out in different ways. I've had multiple clients

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walk through my office with investments that grandma or

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grandpa set up for them and they really, really valued that

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contribution and that connection. This is grandma's

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money. This is grandpa's money that he set aside specifically

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for me. That resonates. They want to duplicate that. They

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want to replicate that down the road. And again, I'm obviously

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not trying to have you hit up mom or dad for money by any

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means. They worked hard for their money and first and

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foremost, I'd like for them to spend it on themselves. But many

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of them are just going to have more than they may need. Many

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may want to have something to leave to kids. If asked do you

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want to leave a bunch of money in your pockets for your kids to

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get when you die? Or would you rather see them enjoy it while

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you're still living? And I've yet to hear anybody I've dealt

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with say "I would rather than get a bunch of money when I

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die." Now maybe that's just my experience, but so far have not

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heard that as an answer.

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Now while there is technically a limit to this, it is somewhat

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less relevant for many people. The current lifetime exclusion

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for 2021 is $11.7 million. Meaning if you do go over that

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$15,000 annual limit, you will have to file a gift tax return

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and your $11.7 million dollar exemption will lower by the

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excess. So as you see for middle class families, maybe not

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exactly a real concern from a practical standpoint, let's say

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more times than not. Whether you have an $11.7 million exemption

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or a $11.680 million exemption, you're probably still going to

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make out okay in that regard.

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So from today's episode, I'm really hoping that you're

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walking away with that goal that was set early on in the episode;

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leaving with the desire to think about what gifting goals you may

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have for your kids, but more importantly, what lessons you

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can help in teaching them through that gifting. So what

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money concepts do you want to teach them, because gifting can

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likely help. And remember to talk to your kids about these

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items. Get them interested in making positive money steps when

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they're young and that mindset will carry them exponentially

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farther in all likelihood than just those kind of few dollars

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that you spent in the process.

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Thanks very much for tuning in today and join us for next

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week's episode called Your Kid Almost Certainly Doesn't Need

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Savings Through a Life Insurance Policy, where we are going to

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cover what has often become known as the Gerber policies.

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You may have had one of these given to you by your parents,

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and really dig into why in my opinion, you don't want to be

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saving for your young child through life insurance.

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Overall, as I always say, if you're able to implement what we

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covered today, then that's just fantastic. You have less to

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worry about than before, you can focus more on enjoying life.

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That's why I'm putting all this content out there. So start

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thinking about this gifting from today's episode, how you may

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want to use it to create lessons for your kids to learn.

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If you are wanting help with any of these things though, or have

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questions that you need help in clarifying, check out the Ask

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Joe section on the show's website www.EnjoyMore30s.com.

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That's EnjoyMore30s.com and until next week, thanks for

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joining me today and I look forward to connecting with you

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again soon.

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Joe's opinions and provided for general information purposes

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professional advice for your specific situation. You should

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always seek appropriate advice from a financial advisor,

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with New Horizons Wealth Management LLC, a branch office

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of TFS Securities, Inc., and TFS Advisory Services an SEC

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registered Investment Advisor member FINRA/SIPC.

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About the Podcast

Enjoy More 30s: Family Finance
Family Finance for Young Professionals.
Young families receive little to no personal finance help. We all grow up to have jobs and money, yet our education system focuses on Shakespeare and Algebra. Even professional advice can be hard to come by, with the majority of the industry chasing retirees and existing wealth.

Joe Okaly's podcast is aiming to change this, providing personal financial advice geared specifically to professionals with young families. This podcast is dedicated to making life more enjoyable for young families, by hitting on the financial topics that tend to weigh on us, stress us out, and distract our focus from simply enjoying life.

Joseph P Okaly is a CFP Certified Financial Advisor who fits directly in with who this podcast is focused on - a young professional with a family. With over a decade of experience as an advisor, there is passion and knowledge to make a difference.

Securities offered through TFS Securities, Inc., Advisory Services through TFS Advisory Services, a SEC Registered Investment Advisor Member FINRA / SIPC. TFS Securities, Inc. located at 437 Newman Springs Road, Lincroft, NJ 07738 (732) 758-9300.